I have tried really hard not to accuse anyone in all these “breakup” writings, but avoiding that may not be as effective as actually saying what I’m about to say.

There is no “bad guy” in this sort of breakup. Nobody cheated. Nobody abandoned. Nobody acted out of retaliation or anger.

It’s human nature to take sides, and in most cases, my readers will feel passionately about the pain I feel. However, it’s so important to remember that this breakup was many events and feelings that came to a zenith. There are two sides to this tale, and neither are the “correct” side. There are absolutely no villains in this scenario.

I have a huge array of emotions that come with this separation. I feel hurt, remorse, envy, despair, anger, and confusion — to name a few. He has many of the same emotions running through him as well. When someone chooses to end a relationship, it doesn’t mean that they don’t experience that same profound sadness. 

Of course, I cannot assume how he feels or speak for him, but I know he’s human. I know ending a serious relationship is not easy. He’s a good guy, and nobody should ever think otherwise.

I only wish him the best in life. I respect his decisions, and I hope he finds everything he wants and needs. His happiness means the world to me.